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January 30, 2010 @ 2:24 pm

My Inner Critic Speaks

I wrote this post back in September, and I’ve had it in my drafts folder ever since.  I guess I was planning to add to it at the time, but I kind of like it just as it is, now.

I mentioned in a recent post that my inner critic has been quieter lately, and weaker in attempts to knock me off-kilter.  When I wrote this post, good-old IC was still trying, desperately, to regain the footing that was slipping away, and was finally beginning to realize that I was taking charge, was no longer so influenced by all the negativity, and that I was winning the fight.

And so, here is that post:

inner-criticMy inner critic is a little confused right now.  The dialog that has run in the background for about as long as I can remember is sounding quieter, further away, for a larger percentage of the time.  He (I tend to see my inner critic as a mean, grumpy old man; I don’t know why, but for whatever reason, the image works for me) doesn’t like to be ignored.  He liked that he pretty much had free reign for the last several years.

This is what he’s been saying lately:

What the hell is wrong with you?  You’ve suddenly changed from a curmodgeony, negative disbeliever-in-love to a goofy, giddy freaking romantic.  You used to be able to see that all that soulmate-romance crap was just a bunch of B.S. and that all those people who spend so much time and energy looking for it are fools who are doomed to be disappointed over and over again until they finally realize they’re chasing something that doesn’t exist.  What happened, to make you lose sight of that?

Me: I fell in love, and I wasn’t even looking for it.  I didn’t see it coming.

You mean you fell for love.  You fell for the B.S.  You took leave of your senses.  You . . .

Me: Oh, shut up.  Really.


  1. Comment by Kerro:

    Wow Tamp, this is great! I’m glad your inner critic is quieter, and even when he isn’t that you can tell him to shut the hell up. That’s great!

    • Comment by lifeischange:

      Thanks, Kerro. Yeah, it sure is helpful to be able to demote the Inner Critic to the role of Occasional Adviser / Helpful Suggestion Maker, rather than Ruler / Oppressor. We all have one, I guess, but they are supposed to work with and for us, not against us. 🙂


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